Jim and I have always openly discussed our future. We get so excited imagining our future home, decorating our living room, where to live abroad (just for maybe 2 years), what business ventures to explore together… It’s not a dead giveaway but I did notice the conversations about our future becoming more frequent. I would always joke about hating having to part ways every night. Cue the Beach Boys’ Wouldn’t It Be Nice.
Obviously marriage was in our not-so-far future. Then I heard about a diamond. Jim and I were driving home from the 7107 International Music Festival (February 23) when his mom called. Siyempre it was just the 2 of us in the car and I could hear everything his mom was saying. She was just reminding him of some errands to run and then she said in a very excited tone, “May nahanap na diamond si tita Fely. Gusto mong tignan?” and my heart skipped! He rushed to say “Mommy, mamaya na” and said goodbye as I looked out the window so he wouldn’t see my smiling face with matching wide eyes. I was SOOO happy it was really difficult not to smile like an idiot. I didn’t want to ruin his plans.
The next clue I got was from MY mom. Hahaha!! It’s a long story but Maxx and I had a silly misunderstanding and didn’t talk for a WHOLE WEEK which was like a lifetime for BFFs like us. Then we finally HAD to see each other at a meeting. We talked and figured out that we totally misunderstood each other so we made up. When Maxx went to the bathroom, my mom asked me, “So is this why Jim wanted to have dinner with me and Maxx? To try and fix your fight?” and I was so weirded out and said I don’t know but I was pretty sure he was going to ask for my hand in marriage. I kind of freaked out when I realized my mom could totally say no to the idea of us getting married.
I NEVER EVER go through Jim’s phone but when we order food for delivery we grab the nearest phone. I really wanted to kick myself for getting his phone and his inbox was onscreen. His mom’s message read “Did Pia reply na?” ANO BA YAN!! Hahaha! By this time I had super mixed feelings already because though I was very excited to get married, I also felt guilty that I already knew.
I guessed it would happen in Japan because… Duh, why wouldn’t you propose in Japan? Haha! So whenever I told Jim, “I’m so excited for Japan!!!” he didn’t know I was secretly telling him, “YES I WILL MARRY YOU!”
On the second day of our Japan trip, we passed by a coffee shop and it was too full to seat our group of 9. We had to get separate tables so Jim and I coincidentally got a little privacy. As we were half-joking about someday living in Japan for a few years, he started getting serious. He told me that he had spoken to his parents and my mom about the idea of us moving in together. He said that his very conservative mom got very upset and they hadn’t spoken for 2 weeks. My mom wasn’t happy with the idea either, according to Jim. All this information took me by surprise and I genuinely felt like a fool for thinking he was going to propose to me. But he was such a sweet heart and told me he was trying really hard to take our relationship to the next step. Sadly, he said he couldn’t offer me marriage because he was waiting to become financially stable. I couldn’t let him know how sad I was because he was thinking very rationally so I smiled, brushed it off and excused myself to use the bathroom. My tears started pouring faster than my heartbeat in the confines of the women’s bathroom. My chest was really hurting but I knew it wasn’t my heart breaking. I still knew I was with the best boyfriend ever. I got upset because I wondered if his whole story was to cover up my mom saying NO to our engagement. I wiped my tears quickly and thanked myself for using smudge-free eyeliner and waterproof mascara before heading back to our table. I gave Jim a quick peck on the cheek and told him I didn’t want to live together anyway before getting married so it’s no problem with me. I know, right? I’m such a wonderful girlfriend………… CHE!! Hahaha!
So nagpaka-Elsa na ako and I LET IT GO…
It wasn’t going to happen. Kebs na. The next day we traveled to one of the best parks in Tokyo — Ueno Park. It was so beautiful.
Walked around for a few hours and then it was time to go home. We all took photos before leaving.
Then Arkin started taking photos of Maxx and Chino by the Japanese sign (I have no clue what it says). He called Jim and I to take photos too because it was a nice place to take “couple” photos daw. Cute!!
As soon as we stood there to take photos, a strong breeze blew the cherry blossom petals on us! It was SO ROMANTIC. In hindsight, Jim told me he kept choking to ask me the entire trip because he kept waiting for the perfect time. The petal shower was the perfect sign according to him and that’s when he turned to me, held both my hands and started sort of stammering. Hehehe. I knew it was finally happening but I couldn’t believe it!!
He said “I’ve been waiting for the right moment to ask you…” I was already crying before he got down on one knee and brought something out from his pocket. I saw a silver Spiderman keychain (my favorite Marvel superhero) and my heart stopped. I was thinking OMG IS THIS NOT A MARRIAGE PROPOSAL?! I’M GONNA DIE hahaha and then I saw the ring attached to the keychain. That’s when he said “I love you. Will you marry me?” and of course I said YES!!
Look at how happy mom is!! But I still couldn’t believe it! I actually asked “are you sure?!” and as desperate as it may seem, I remember saying “thank you!” HAHAHA. It’s just my automatic response to anything that makes me happy. <3
Here I am hugging my mom <3 I am so happy and it means so much to me that we have her blessing. Thank you, mama!!
As you may have already guessed, Jim and his mom are totally fine. They have all been in on it and I can’t think of anybody luckier than me right now. Pang best actor ang performance ni Jim haha. He really tried to throw me off because he had a feeling that I knew about the proposal. Ang galing niya but also kinda cruel. Hahahaha!
Thank you so much for all your well wishes. I’m also thankful for being able to share this moment with you. I’ll be sure to let you know more about my journey down the aisle and into holy matrimony! I have so much more to tell you!!!
AHHH!! YES WE’RE ACTUALLY ENGAGED!! IT HAPPENED ON MARCH 29 — NOT ON APRIL FOOL’S DAY, THANK GOD! HAHAHA! KAMPAI!!